The recent study shows that the family violence in Australia is largely underreported .
There is quite few resons for that but one is the fact that reporting violence can carry negative social stigma which often lasts many years after the violence stops and the victim is no longer exposed to the perpetrator .
Another is the feeling of shame where the victim is simply too embarrassed to admit that she/he is a victim of physical abuse and stays with the violent person under one roof .
According to findings the number of females who abuse their male partners had risen substantially too.
The male as we know is much less inclined to report such cases or admitting it to his family or friends due to pride factor , therefore the abuse men by females may have been also substantially underreported for years . .
In other words the long established thought of the perpetrator as the wife-beater is no longer applicable . Abuse is very damaging physically and emotionally . It makes no difference if the victim is a female a male or a child .
Many victims develop lifelong emotional scars .
Some even blame themselves for the abuse because the brain has to find some logical justification for thier suffering
Children are the most venerable here .
Their limited life experience and inability to process large number of complex emotions can only lead to confusion , feeling of abandomnent and anger , which is often expressed in violence towards their own partners in their later lives
Children often just make things up if the truth doesn't make snese s they blame themselfves.
In NLC we use CBT to help victims of abuse