Anger Management

Anger is a reaction to certain stressors and it’s accompanied with the release of adrenalin: the hormone which aids in our primal fight/flight response. It is an emotion which allows us to react in a certain way in situations which require drastic, immediate action eg: during combat soldiers often use anger in self-defense. In this scenario, the anger is projected in right direction and can save lives.

 

However, mostly in our daily life anger is not needed, and is a very harmful emotion. Anger can be directed towards a supervisor, family member, authority figure, another driver on the road or to ourselves.

 

It’s an emotion that comes with warning signs, the trouble is we don’t always recognize the signals. Identifying and understanding these indicators is crucial to us interpreting anger and taking appropriate action.

 

It’s almost like driving a car in a busy town while ignoring all of the road signs and warning signals. Eventually an accident will occur.

Common physical signs of anger are:

 

  • faster heart rate
  • dry mouth
  • shaking hands
  • feeling hot
  • stiffness of muscles
  • clenched jaw
  • even speech patterns might be temporarily disturbed.

In most cases the triggers or stressors which cause anger are easy to recognize. This means the treatment in reducing or eliminating anger can be very effective.

 

Thanks to extensive research, it is known that we merely choose to be angry. This suggests that we can also choose not to.

 

This is in effect the whole premise of modern psychology involving the treatment of anger.

 

I like to use the following techniques to help clients cope with anger

  1. stop negative self-talk
  2. seeing the world around ‘as is’ not as imagined
  3. awareness of catastrophizing phenomenon
  4. using proven relaxation techniques

 

Question – Can everyone be freed of anger?

Definitely yes (in most cases), but if not eliminated, I can certainly dramatically reduce the angry responses and behaviors which people project.